Have you ever seen a naughty kid?
The naughty kids in the restaurant are clamoring for their parents to quickly deliver their favorite food to their mouths. The naughty kids on the subway are stepping on the seats and making loud noises. In the mall, park, etc...
The annoying behavior of naughty children often makes people upset, and their willfulness and mischief will cause trouble and inconvenience to the people around them.
However, if we dig deeper into the reasons behind it, we will find that behind every naughty child there is often a naughty parent . Naughty parents may over-indulge and over-protect their children, causing them to misbehave.
They may overlook the importance of giving their children proper guidance and regulation , and indulge their children's willfulness and mischief .
Today, let’s discuss a topic that has attracted much attention - the issue of child rearing .
Are you overindulging?
Children's upbringing problems reflect the quality and methods of family education . Overindulgent parents often fail to give their children proper discipline and education, resulting in children's lack of self-control and sense of responsibility . Overprotective parents deprive children of the opportunity to develop independently, resulting in their inability to cope with challenges in life.
In our parents' generation, spoiling and overprotecting children was probably a common phenomenon . In our traditional concepts, parents are always reluctant to spend money and want to leave the good things for their children . They are also always overprotecting them and wanting them to avoid detours.
However, with the development of society and the improvement of cognition, we gradually realize the negative impact of this practice. Parents always want to leave all the delicious food on the table to their children. This is a way for parents to express their love, but in excessive pampering, children may lose their due sense of autonomy and ability to think independently , and at the same time become extremely self-centered and self-centered.
Similarly, overprotection may be due to concern and worry for children, but inadvertently, it creates obstacles to their growth.
Overindulgence means giving children too much care and love, even beyond what they need . Although parents' love for their children is selfless, overindulgence can make children dependent, lack the ability to solve problems, and even lose the sense of responsibility for their own behavior.
Therefore, we should give children appropriate free space and opportunities for independent development based on love, so that they can learn to think and live independently .
The more protection, the more dangerous
Overprotection or over-wrapping is also an issue that parents need to be wary of.
In modern society, parents often worry about their children getting hurt, so they protect them at all costs and wrap their children in a protective environment. Some parents interfere too much in their children's daily lives, so that their children cannot complete some simple tasks independently.
For example, they may choose clothes for their children, pack their school bags, arrange extracurricular activities, and even make decisions for their children in social situations. Other parents try to create a completely non-competitive and non-stressful environment for their children. For example, they may interfere with the referee's decision in a game, fight for special treatment for their children in school, or even avoid any possible failure scenarios for their children .
However, failure is an essential part of the growth process . It teaches children to accept challenges, work hard, and learn from failures. Overprotection will only make children escape from reality and lose the opportunity to grow . Therefore, we should provide children with appropriate support and guidance, but not overprotect them, so that they can learn to deal with various difficulties in life independently .
Dear parents, children are our future, and their growth requires our care and guidance. However, we cannot over-indulge or over-protect them out of love . Instead, we should give them enough freedom and responsibility, because only when facing challenges and difficulties can children truly learn to grow, and only in free exploration can they find their own path.
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