Children's fear is not manifested in all things. They are often only afraid of a certain thing, or a certain aspect of a thing.
For example, recently a parent of a student who participated in our class told us that his child felt that he was one grade younger than students in other classes, that he was not very good at learning knowledge, and that he was very resistant to completing the homework assigned by the teacher. The parent was very worried about his child's fear of difficulties.
However, in the subsequent communication with the teacher, we found that the teacher's evaluation of this child was: accurate vocabulary use, clear logic, not a child with learning difficulties. This shows that the child's fear of difficulties mainly comes from his own lack of confidence, and does not mean that the child really has problems.
In fact, children's fear of difficulties is very common in the education process, but common does not mean easy to solve. It still takes a series of processes to overcome children's fear of difficulties.
There are two major challenges in this process, one is the patience of parents, and the other is the endurance of children.
Expression of fear
Children who are afraid of difficulties will show symptoms such as excessive worry, nervousness, irritability, fatigue, etc., which may even affect their physical health in severe cases.
These psychological problems will not only affect children's academic performance, but also their physical and mental health and interpersonal relationships.
Parents' behavior
Parents' "desire for control"
Always think "my children should listen to me"
Give children too difficult tasks and set too high expectations on them. This causes children to always fail to meet their parents' expectations, gradually lose confidence, and feel that they can't do it when something happens. Or they impose their own wishes on their children and force them to do things they are not interested in, which leads to a lack of initiative in their children.
Parents’ “overprotection”
Always think “children are still young, what can they do?”
From daily life to talking and doing things outside, parents arrange everything for their children, making children accustomed to passively letting others arrange things for them, and developing a sense of psychological dependence. Children lose the opportunity to think independently and the ability to solve problems.
Picture book recommendation
The reason why children are afraid of difficulties is that they lack the ability to control their emotions and psychology, and are easily manipulated by emotions.
These picture books use imaginative stories and bright colors to help children learn to overcome negative emotions such as fear, retreat, anger, etc.
Where the Wild Things Are
Maurice Sendak's book has won numerous honors and reputations and is regarded as a classic of emotional management. The protagonist relieves his emotions through a fantasy journey in a wild jungle.
Feifei is angry
Children are always unhappy because of small things, and negative emotions are like a volcano about to erupt. This book uses simple words and bright colors to describe the abstract emotions of the little girl Feifei.
Coward Willy
Every child wants to be a hero, but young children will become timid and lack confidence when facing people who are stronger than themselves. But Anthony Brown told the children: as long as they work hard, they can become strong. Willy not only became strong physically, but also firm and confident in his heart by insisting on exercising, eating nutritious meals, and exercising.
I'm So Worried
Worry, fear, and terror are emotional problems that every child will encounter. This book uses extremely delicate and gentle strokes to depict Xiaoli's story of constant worry and gradual reassurance. It is close to the psychology and living environment of young children and helps children overcome all kinds of anxiety about going to school.
A Dark, Dark Story
This is a suspenseful story. The author uses a chain-like structure to keep children's curiosity aroused. The ending is so funny that I believe that children who have been nervous and nervous all the way will breathe a sigh of relief and then laugh out loud uncontrollably - the owner of the empty big house is actually a little mouse!
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