"Parents who love their children will plan for them in the long run."
Every parent's love for their children
and their desire for their children to live a better life
are all human nature
But excessive expectations sometimes
can bring tremendous pressure to the children, the family, and the parents themselves
Beauty of the Soul
In fact, the greatest wish of parents is that their children are healthy and happy, but the idea of "wanting sons to become dragons and daughters to become phoenixes" often distorts this simple and beautiful wish and deviates from the essence of love.
Many parents' idea of "wanting their sons to be successful and their daughters to be successful", coupled with fierce social competition and expectations for their children, has led to countless "tiger moms and wolf dads", which in turn have cultivated "chicken babies".
No holidays, no rest, no electronic products, no entertainment activities. After learning all the academic knowledge, can this really make children stand out and become winners in life? In other words, if we want our children to become winners in life, what should we teach them?
Parents’ attitude is very important!
Parents’ mentality
The mentality of wanting a son to be a dragon and a daughter to be a phoenix is an expression of love on a conscious level, but on a subconscious level it may be a defense of the parents' idealization! Kevin Tsai once said: "For a child, the most precious thing is that his parents give him an ideal environment, allowing him to become himself, rather than becoming the person we want him to be."
It is a good thing to expect children to achieve something, but parents who "force their children to succeed" are often overly dissatisfied with the status quo, so they unconsciously impose their own ideals on their children. To get out of the dilemma of too high expectations, both parents and children need to learn to respect people's individuality.
Lead by example
Many parents do not realize the important connection between their children's growth and their own parenting style. We often say that we should teach by example, but no matter how well a child is educated in school or extracurricular classes, the biggest influence on their growth is still the parents and family.
Sometimes when children have some problems or always fail to meet their parents' expectations, parents will spend a lot of money to send their children to various cram schools and training, hoping that "experts and teachers" can help their children "change bad habits." But in fact, the most effective way to change children is to change their parents' concepts and behaviors.
Cultivate character and habits
As the saying goes, it is better to teach a man how to fish than to give him a fish. We should cultivate children's self-discipline and optimistic habits, and teach them good and beautiful moral qualities. We should not only focus on making children stand out in their studies, but also teach them to be independent.
How many top students, after entering college and society, do not know what to do, have no plans and no self-control, and suddenly gain the freedom to control their own time and life, so they indulge themselves, and then their lives fall into a slump, and their parents' years of painstaking training and expectations are destroyed.
In the end, it is contrary to their parents' expectations. Therefore, if you really want your children to achieve something in their lives, parents must change the concept of "wanting sons to become dragons and daughters to become phoenixes".
"When the concept changes, the children change"
Educating children is a long-term plan. Today's society, schools, and families have never attached so much importance to children's education and growth as they do today. Publishers at home and abroad have also turned their attention to the millions of parents who want their children to be successful. However, parents flip through various versions of parenting books, but the books they buy back home may not be suitable for educating their children.
To this end, based on the needs of many parents and our own personal experience as parents, we refer to the content of educating children in many foreign books, newspapers, networks, lectures, family consulting agencies, etc., and recommend: "Change your concept, and your children will change!"
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